Self-Love Makes Sex Sexier

Wanking, flicking the bean, jerking off or dotting the ‘g’ - benefits our overall health and well-being

Good sex and feeling good about yourself sexually is about way more than just the physical stuff. Taking care of your sexual wellness should be up there with drinking a kale smoothie! Self-love isn't just bubble-baths and face masks (though those are awesome too!) It's about taking care of yourself – mind, body, and soul.

Think of it like this: Imagine getting hot and heavy, but you're constantly criticising yourself in your head. Not exactly a mood-setter, right? Self-love means appreciating what your body can do - from that killer dance move to telling someone “left a bit and softer”; it can all make you feel good in your own skin.
Get to know your own body: what you like, what turns you on, what feels goooood and what feels baaaaad.
Masturbation is a topic that is often shrouded in secrecy and taboo, but it is a natural and healthy aspect of sexuality. For us it is important to start and facilitate conversations about self-pleasure.
 
Whatever you want to call it, be it wanking, flicking the bean, jerking off or dotting the ‘g’ - the benefits to overall health and well-being are worthy of discussion. This self-exploration can lead to a deeper sense of body awareness, self-confidence, and sexual empowerment. By discussing masturbation openly and positively, we can challenge the stigma and shame that it is often associated with. Creating a supportive and non-judgmental environment where individuals feel comfortable talking about masturbation can help break down barriers and promote a more inclusive and sex-positive culture.

 Take the time to understand what’s right for you. Use different techniques, toys, positions or figure out how your body and mind get turned on. Reading a smutty book, or logging on to Only Fans – take your time and learn this stuff. It is as important as going for a run (in our humble opinion), allowing you to build a foundation for a life that you can stand up for yourself and communicate what you want.

As Ru Paul says “If you don’t love yourself how the hell you going to love somebody else” 
 
If you’re feeling stressed and burnt out your sex drive takes a nosedive. Here's how to keep your sexy spark lit:

·        Sleep is bae: Catch those Z's! A well-rested body is ready to get busy (or just chill, whatever you're feeling).
 
·        Do You: Make time for things that make you happy, whether it is reading, having a bath or having a wank – it’s all important!
 
·        Relationship goals: Hot sex can strengthen the bond(s) with your partner(s) and make you feel closer. Mutual masturbation is a great way to show your partner what you like, and also find out what they like.
 
·        Sex basically = happy chemicals: Sex releases endorphins that make you feel good and stressless – think of it like a built-in mood booster.
 
·        Communication is key: Talking openly about what you like and don't like is essential for a rocking sex life.
 
·        Need help? Don't be shy: Talking to a therapist is totally normal and trust us, they will have heard more eye widening things than you can ever think of.
 

To help get you started, we have put together some essentials which we think will hit the spot for some self-love!