Sex & ADHD
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Living with ADHD can be like trying to navigate a chaotic amusement park whilst riding a rollercoaster of emotions. So when it comes to your sex life, ADHD symptoms such as inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity, can add both a whole new level of excitement as well as potential challenges to the mix.
Ever felt like your brain is a like a pinball machine during sex? With thoughts and feelings bouncing around all over the place? Yeah, me too...!
Combine the physical and mental stimulation of sex, with the ADHD tendency of wandering thoughts, and the result can become just a big NOPE.
So what can we do...? Anyone with ADHD knows how overwhelming the world can feel sometimes and sex is 'the' sensory experience so certain touches, smells or sounds that might be arousing for some, can be downright irritating for others.
Where some find sensory input overwhelming, others will have a higher need for sensory stimulation. All that being said, these aren’t to be looked at negatives; getting to explore other types of sexual play can be exciting and can get you that big dopamine hit.
ADHD can affect your sex drive either direction; some folks experience a constantly high libido, while others struggle with low desire. It can also be inconsistent, meaning you might crave intimacy one day and find the thought exhausting the next.
Also, let's not forget about the impulsivity that comes with ADHD. You might find yourself acting on your desires without a second thought, leading to some spontaneous (and sometimes unexpected) moments in the bedroom. Whilst this can add an element of thrill, it can also create some awkward situations if not managed properly. That impulsivity that comes with ADHD can sometimes lead to risky sexual behaviour; possible unprotected sex or engaging in activities that make you uncomfortable.
On the flip side, some individuals with ADHD may find that their symptoms actually enhance their sex life. The same hyperactivity and impulsivity that can affect someone “negatively” could have a more “positive” effect on others; increased spontaneity, creativity, and a willingness to try new things in the bedroom. They may be more open to exploring different sexual experiences and pushing boundaries, which can lead to a more fulfilling and exciting sex life.
It's Not All Doom and Gloom! The good news? With a little understanding and open communication, you can have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life with ADHD. Here are some tips we think could help:
Communication - Talk openly about your ADHD and how it affects you - be that in a sexual space or in your day to day life. Let your potential partner(s) know you might need some extra patience and understanding.
Challenge your hyper-focus - When you’re “in the zone” it can lead to the most mind blowing passionate moments; so use your super power to get those O’s.
Manage distractions - Turn off phones, dim the lights, minimise background noise - whatever helps you to stay present.
Focus on foreplay - If sensory input is your thing, spend more time on sensual touch and massage. Possibly play about with accessories like eye coverings or restraints, these may help you to stay focused and calm your mind.
So, while living with ADHD might add a few twists and turns to your sex life, it can also bring a sense of adventure and excitement that you wouldn't find anywhere else. With a little open communication and some creativity, you can have a sex life that's awesome for you and your partner. Embrace your unique quirks and challenges, and remember you can still have a fulfilling and fun sex life.
Now go forth and conquer that bedroom, ADHD warriors!
ADHD can affect your sex drive either direction; some folks experience a constantly high libido, while others struggle with low desire. It can also be inconsistent, meaning you might crave intimacy one day and find the thought exhausting the next.
Also, let's not forget about the impulsivity that comes with ADHD. You might find yourself acting on your desires without a second thought, leading to some spontaneous (and sometimes unexpected) moments in the bedroom. Whilst this can add an element of thrill, it can also create some awkward situations if not managed properly. That impulsivity that comes with ADHD can sometimes lead to risky sexual behaviour; possible unprotected sex or engaging in activities that make you uncomfortable.
On the flip side, some individuals with ADHD may find that their symptoms actually enhance their sex life. The same hyperactivity and impulsivity that can affect someone “negatively” could have a more “positive” effect on others; increased spontaneity, creativity, and a willingness to try new things in the bedroom. They may be more open to exploring different sexual experiences and pushing boundaries, which can lead to a more fulfilling and exciting sex life.
It's Not All Doom and Gloom! The good news? With a little understanding and open communication, you can have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life with ADHD. Here are some tips we think could help:
Communication - Talk openly about your ADHD and how it affects you - be that in a sexual space or in your day to day life. Let your potential partner(s) know you might need some extra patience and understanding.
Challenge your hyper-focus - When you’re “in the zone” it can lead to the most mind blowing passionate moments; so use your super power to get those O’s.
Manage distractions - Turn off phones, dim the lights, minimise background noise - whatever helps you to stay present.
Focus on foreplay - If sensory input is your thing, spend more time on sensual touch and massage. Possibly play about with accessories like eye coverings or restraints, these may help you to stay focused and calm your mind.
So, while living with ADHD might add a few twists and turns to your sex life, it can also bring a sense of adventure and excitement that you wouldn't find anywhere else. With a little open communication and some creativity, you can have a sex life that's awesome for you and your partner. Embrace your unique quirks and challenges, and remember you can still have a fulfilling and fun sex life.
Now go forth and conquer that bedroom, ADHD warriors!